Written By Dana Crerar
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Whether you believe you can, or you can’t… you’re right.. So, might as well wholeheartedly believe you can!
This paraphrased quote was coined by Henry Ford, and it revolves around what intentions we place into the things we believe we CAN do, or CAN’T.
Your body, mind, and soul will turn off when you say CAN’T. The universe doesn’t respond to CAN’T… only to CAN.
Why trip ourselves up, before we even begin?
Believing you CAN
This is a tough topic to broach, as some Students (and Adults) have been raised in environments that tell them they CAN’T, they’re not good enough, or worthy enough, to receive.
Speaking from that experience, it has been a lifelong battle with my self-confidence and feeling that I CAN do the things that I cannot stop thinking about, and working towards.
Growing up, we are highly influenced by our immediate surroundings, those that are often around (Parents, Siblings, Extended Family in town, etc.), the friends we attain through the early years, and the people who have similar interests and hobbies.
All of us are human, and are quite susceptible to believing anything said to us, about us, if it came from a source that we are supposed to trust, and have no other choice but to abide by – even if these words and actions are hurtful, detrimental, and shame the natural development of children.
There is a common quote, stating “When we criticize our kids, they don’t stop loving us, they stop loving themselves.”
If you find it tough to find your self-love, and foster it, as a child you might have been exposed to your ‘BIG’s’ telling you things about yourself that are from their viewpoint, and have very little to do with how you feel about YOU!
It may be challenging getting to a point where you care more about what you think about you, than what others think about you.
If this was provoked from an early age, then you might not have had the best opportunities to:
- build your self-esteem,
- be encouraged through a nurturing environment, that considers your feelings, your hopes, your dreams, your drive, and provides chances to flourish in those areas
without criticisms for asking, feeling the sting of your idea being rejected, possibly being punished for thinking you could try it out, and being disregarded with future attempts, in similar areas
We cannot control others, in anyway, shape, or form, but we can be analytical of what others are saying to us, and question if they are saying it to be helpful, or simply projecting their own fear onto us, because they would do what you’re trying, differently.
The foundation of believing YOU CAN stems from finding where your self-esteem, self-image, self-confidence, trust in self and others, or way of being, has been abused, demolished, or halted, and investigating where it came from:
- caring about what other think, more than what YOU think,
- believing that others’ fears are also your fears,
- seeing others’ beliefs about you, as your own,
- your ‘trusted’ environment turned out to be not so trusting, and let you down emotionally, mentally, psychologically, or even physically,
- you’ve experienced failure, with no consolation, and you have developed fear that any similar future attempt will go the same way, or
- your perpetual people-pleasing ways have been created as a safety net, so you can feel a semblance of love and support from the people who are supposed to do it naturally.
Once these areas are identified, figuring out ways to build up that confidence, and self-image, can take time – but, it is worth it!
Although the intentions from others may seem ‘pure’, they are not in YOUR shoes, and do not see what YOU can see!
We tend to share our dreams with two types of people, and both are important to hear, but one type encourages the dream, and the other injects their feelings (fears) about YOUR dreams.
I have learned that it is about sharing my hopes, loves, and dreams, with those that can safely house a space for me to feel hopeful in, not squash any of my ideas, and (if asked) propose constructive questions, informed opinions, or provide support (in ways that I can’t provide for myself).
Sharing my essence and being with those that are not safe to be around, who constantly criticize me, deny and dismiss my ideas (for whatever reason), withdraw support, and crack down on any plan that is not theirs, is a formula for self-hate and believing that I CAN’T.
If these happenstances are occurring, even with close kin, those types of people will not be the best to help you build your confidence, and see the merit you have.
It is not our job to make others see our worth, and desperately defend it, but create it ourselves, let those that inspire us to be near us, and dissect the hurtful words of others, into what it means for them (their own fear that they can’t do it!).
Believing YOU CAN starts with dismissing others’ opinions that you can’t. It’s not up to them!
“Whatever your mind can conceive, and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill (Mastermind Manager, Mastermindbetter.com)Tweet
When I was teaching this life lesson to my Students, I used a little metaphor to get their wheels turning…
If you are at the starting-line of a race, and you are thinking that you are going to fall, not do well, place last, or any other thought that might disturb your confidence, the likelihood that those things will happen, will have increased… and you haven’t even begun the race, yet!
As Adults (who drive), we can understand the aspect of not worrying about hitting the curb, as that seems to attract it to happen, but kids understand a mario kart banana peel situation, similarly. The more they focus on not hitting the banana, they will likely steer right at it!
This is how we can approach our feelings of BELIEF in ourselves, and start with being hung-ho, or tripping up before it begins.
It’s like our bodies, and the universe, are bound by how we feel about ourselves, our efforts, our attention, and ultimately how we follow through.
It’s like having those moments where you felt like giving up, but something was there (at the perfect moment) to help you pull through! It was secretly YOU and your belief that you could DO IT!
You are right! No matter what thought it is.. so, might as well foster some productive thoughts!
There is a difference between craving validation, while letting others dictate how you can get through YOUR OWN life, and being guided by your self-esteem and intuition.
Trusting your gut has a whole new meaning, with this as its premise.
How do you know if you’re headed in this direction?
How will you determine you’re right, in the moments of anxiety?
BREATHE! Then analyze what those outside opinions, words, actions, or ideas are, and who they are coming from, and see if your stock IN YOU holds more weight than what you are hearing.
Most of the time, those words and actions are being spouted from someone else’s fear, and might be aired because of your closeness with them, but it doesn’t mean that what they’re saying is real… FOR YOU!
This uncovering process is the very definition of vulnerability, as the very real fear of being hurt or attacked for expressing how we really feel can be (and has) determined how we felt about ourselves, and what we were capable of, in the past.
It doesn’t have to be, though… But, it takes courage to be afraid, and just do it, anyway.
What is the hurt, to ourselves, if it is something that WE believe WE can do?
Time to just do it!
However you feel about your hopes, loves, and dreams is directly related to how you will feel going after them, managing your set-backs, and continuing with YOUR reasons, anyway!
You’re RIGHT! Whether you believe you CAN or you CAN’T…
Let Dana help you find some areas where your confidence has been diminished, and let her help you shine, again!
With her compassionate, empathetic, and understanding nature, she will undoubtedly help you uncover some amazing truths about yourself, and show it through music!
These life lessons will inevitably build up your other areas of life, as well!
Let her try🙂
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Hebrews 11:1 in Other Translations
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Henry Ford, founder of Ford Motor Company, was born in Springwells Township, Wayne County, Michigan, on July 30, 1863, to Mary (Litogot) and William Ford. He was the eldest of six children in a family of four boys and two girls.